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Etiquette

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Etiquette

禮儀.儀態.美麗的誤會

The Interesting Stereotype of Etiquette Vs Posture

 

故意吧,挑了一張很cliché 的相片。

甚少與人提及我曾赴英修讀禮儀學,並考取了2張相關的證書。因為我不想於朋友聚會裏,為身邊的人構成壓力。直至有朋友叫我參與相關的培訓 - 幫助一群又一群將投身社會的大學生、以及職場上的年青才俊等 - 我才發覺原來學了這門學問,還可以為社會出一點力。當一個社會進步時,人對生活質素、品味、文化修養、社交、企業管理等的要求隨之提高,怎樣行出來讓客戶於初次見面就留下深刻印象:覺得你是「得體」、「大器」,即是marketing 術語中的 ”presentable” ?

認識和學習禮儀之道可建立自尊、自信、社會尊重及人際關係。這些全是我們常說的「軟技能」:外表衣著 、行為、溝通技巧及餐桌禮儀、跨國文化、下午茶禮儀、國際社交及商務禮儀等諸多內容。

其實,對於我來說,是對其他人及文化的基本尊重及自重!

Q&A:

  1. 通常朋友問我,是不是專程去英國學「儀態 」?

嚴格來說也算是的。簡單來說,儀態(posture) 即是肢體的一舉一動,即使學習跳舞也能學到一點兒。而儀態是博大精深的禮儀學其中一門的必修課 。

 

  1. 是不是只限女仕?

不是,無論社交或商務禮儀,對男仕及女仕也有不同的要求。

 

  1. 每當與朋友聚會吃飯,朋友都會群起模仿我的一舉一動。如吃越南菜時,問是否把飯餸夾至女仕的碟上才對?

我想我在英國沒有學這些,但是我們的父母應該有教我們吃飯時不可「飛象過河」、「不可翻起餸菜的底部才吃」、「不可發出嘴吱的聲音」等。這些基本的餐桌禮儀,適用於主流的禮儀規範。

 

  1. 那吃飯的時候,應該由誰埋單?

視乎社交、商務,主要視乎不同的情況而定……

5. 你學禮儀是不是想嫁入豪門? …

Isn’t a cliché photo? Chosen on purpose.

Seldom do I talk about my study of the etiquette and the two relevant certificates I got in the U.K., which has usually ended up in stressing my friends out during social gatherings alternatively. Not until was I invited to participate in a youth training on etiquette, I was convinced I could actually help contribute to the community by training peers of university students and society elite.

 

Being “Presentable” is a jargon in marketing.  When a contemporary society  is getting more sophisticated, there is a higher demand in lifestyle, taste, culture nurture, social networking and corporate management.  How to make first and lasting positive image, receive and entertain clients with the utmost of professionalism, savoir-vivre and precision?

 

Understanding and learning the art of etiquette is a way to build and foster your self-esteem, self-confidence, social respect as well as interpersonal relationships. In short, this is the “soft skills” which we always talk about: from dressing, behaviour, communications skills, table manner, intercultural awareness, afternoon tea etiquette, international social manner to business etiquette etc.

 

To ME, etiquette actually means the basic respect and self-respect for others and in a culture aspect.

 

 

Q&A:

  1. Many friends asked me if I went to the UK all the way to learn “posture”?

Yes strictly speaking. Posture is how you act with your body in every single move. Like how you can also pick it up from dancing. Posture is indeed an essential lesson for the art of etiquette. (yes part of it)

  1. Is learning the art of etiquette restricted to ladies only?

No. We do have different requirements for men and women, regardless social networking or business etiquette.

  1. Friends like to follow what I do while we gather and dine. During dining at a Vietnamese restaurant, is that true that gentlemen need to take food to ladies’ plate?

I believe I didn’t pay my tuition fee to learn that in the U.K. However, I guess our parents teach us some basic unlearnt virtue at home. For example, we cannot cross the other end with our chopsticks; never flip the bottom of the plate for serving; be quiet when you chew… all these basic table manners apply across the mainstream etiquette.

  1. Who should settle the bill when dining?

It depends on the situation in different occasions, for example, social or business settings.

  1. Have you planned to learn etiquette for sake of becoming a tai-tai? Well…
Etiquette

禮儀軼事

Small Stories About Etiquette

 

到英國學習禮儀學,是我生命中其中一段很好的經驗、人生旅程。除了英國本身保留了大量歷史和文化遺產,學習資源充足,如不同皇宮及博物館均提供大量教材,擴闊眼界。而當我更了解他們的文化,知道他們想法的由來,也提升了與他們溝通的成效。個人的經驗告訴我,當我的談吐行為、習慣、知識及信心與他們沒多大差別時,英國人(外國人) 是會對你有多一份尊重。

Studying etiquette in the U.K. has been one of the vital and rewarding life experiences throughout my life journey. The United Kingdom is an amazing country of history and heritage where one can easily live up with examples and resources like palaces and museums. I am pleased to understand their culture. By understanding more of their thoughts, I have managed to communicate more effectively with the locals. From what I learnt from my experience, somehow  you can earn more respects from the English (or foreigners in general) if you understand, speak and act as if you were part of them (of course, in confidence).

老師安排我到白金漢宮 (Buckingham Palace)近距離接觸,於禁地拍了張照片。

My teacher arranged my visit to the Buckingham Palace where I could manage to take a few shots in the forbidden area.

學習衣著及個人形象、指定動作到 V&A 學 Fashion History

Learning the art of dressing, personal styling, designated posture. Learning Fashion history at the V&A

一直至今,男仕的衣著向來都比女仕講究 。

James Bowden 於 Manners for Men 曾把男仕服裝總括和分類為: 步行、騎馬、駕駛、探訪、划船、狩獵、射擊、高球、騎自行車、網球、板球、足球、用膳、抽煙、休閒、賽車、遊艇、西裝、摩托車裝,更說明了應配以各種飾品才算完整的打扮 , 也是說明了於社會上的身份。當然,今日的社會也簡化了很多。

The art of menswear is more sophisticated than women wear by tradition.

James Bowden wrote about the menswear in the <Manners for Men>. The dress code categories include: walking, horse-riding, driving, visit, rowing, hunting, shooting, golf, cycling, tennis, cricket, football, dining, smoking, causal, racing, yachting, formal attire, motorbike.

He also introduced the accessories according to the outfit, which represented the social class status. Of course, nowadays, the dress code is far more simplified.

學習餐桌禮儀,必須辨認刀具及器具的功能,也需要設計餐單,根據餐單擺放餐桌佈置、桌具及酒杯,亦需要學習排位、娛樂、布藝、佈置美學、花卉擺設、作為主持人的責任等學問。

The basics of table manner: to distinguish the tableware and their functions, to design a menu, to set the table with table cloth, setting, tableware and glassware in accordance to the menu. Furthermore, you can imagine you ‘d learn more like seating plan, entertainment, and the art of clothing, the art of design and deco, floral arrangements and the roles and responsibilities of a host.

老師即場考我法式與英式的7道菜setting ── 訓練過關!

I was tested by the 7-course setting in both French and English ways. Yeah, and I passed!

標準Afternoon Tea 示範:三層架及scone(英式鬆餅)

Scone放於側面,如果沒有這樣多的糕點,scone則置於中層。

The demonstration of the classic Afternoon Tea: a three-tiered cake stand and scone

Scones are usually put on the side of a cake stand. Alternatively in the centre if there are not many cakes and bites for the day.

 

Etiquette

典型英式商務午餐 The Milestone Hotel, London

The Classic English Business Luncheon at The Milestone Hotel, London

 

商務午餐對於英國(或西方人)而言是有特定的目的。由於重視低調的優雅,不會大魚大肉,更著重建立親切、和藹和彼此關係的信任。 由選擇地點、餐單、座位安排配以身份的關係、飲酒、衣著等,都是一門學問。餐宴過程中,懂得禮儀學的人能迅速透過觀察賓客的點餐及餐桌禮儀技巧等, 對你的背景略知一二。

The British (or westerns in general) prefer business luncheons with a purpose. It aims to elegantly foster relationships and build mutual trusts without excessive extravagance. Once again, It is all about the art of etiquette – from choosing a venue, setting a menu, seating arrangements, drinking and outfits. Sophisticated dinners can easily have a quick glance of your background from how you order and your table manner.

麵飽籃頗精緻,而牛油也有四種,主人是需要主動為客人傳遞麵飽的。

A delicate bread basket. With 4 flavours of butter. Hosts should proactively pass on the bread.

傳統英式是吃主菜,方上沙律。原因是沙律可使口腔清新,才繼續吃其他菜式。

The traditional British way is to serve the main course, followed by the salad.

The salad can freshen up your mouth before the next course.

沙律菜是不切的。

Salad veggies served in whole.

英國人叫甜品做Pudding,意思與dessert 一樣。
“Pudding”, the British way of calling dessert.

最後是吃芝士盤 (cheese platter),這個傳統,無論我於酒店或英國人家中用餐也是一樣。切芝士連餅乾吃是有特定的方法,否則其他人會覺得你沒有禮貌。

Served with cheese platter finally. The same order while dining at hotel or at a local home.

Be aware of how you serve yourself with cheese and crackers in a polite way.

Lifestyle

體驗令人趨之若鶩的The Ritz Hotel London傳統英式下午茶(Afternoon Tea)

Experiencing the classy afternoon tea at The Ritz Hotel London

 

環境雅緻的The Ritz Hotel London。

The elegant and polished setting at The Ritz Hotel London.

傳統英式下午茶,我的Afternoon Tea Etiquette大派用場了!

The classic high tea. Time to apply my afternoon tea etiquette!

這裹已有很多平時留意不到的細節…

Every detail counts.

於The Ritz Hotel London嘆傳統英式下午茶是人生一個很好的體驗。

It is a fabulous life experience to enjoy the traditional English afternoon tea at the Ritz Hotel London.

Etiquette

專業精英培訓課程

Professional training programmes for the Elite.

 

各企業精英包括從事公關、銀行、採購、人力資源、市務、保險人員等都應該學習良好的舉止與儀態:如何介紹、問候、會面、人際網絡建立、個人形象、提升競爭力。

Open to all kinds of corporate elite ranging from the Public Relations pros, Bankers, Merchandisers, Human Resource Pros, Marketing Pros, Insurance Industry Pros.

The essence of learning the proper social manner and behaviours include formal self-introduction, greeting, meeting, the establishment of networking, personal styling and how to increase the personal competitiveness etc.

於浸會大學訓練有名的傳理系及商務學院的學生,傳授商業溝通技巧、餐桌禮儀及塑造專業形象等,為他們投入社會作充足的準備。

Training Hong Kong Baptist University students majoring from the renowned Communications Study to Business studies.

Preparing them at work on corporate communications skills, table manner, personal styling.

為香港理工大學準畢業生提供專業商務形象培訓,使同學們掌握商務溝通、網絡禮儀、建立專業形象和儀容的衣櫥技巧,引領他們達至成功。

Corporate Image Styling training for the fresh graduate of the Hong Kong Polytechnic University, which is a crucial stepping stone in their career.

Travel

TGIF: 到V&A Museum 享受Weekend !

TGIF: A Weekend at the V&A Museum!

 

又星期五了,Londoner其中一個必去之處就是V&A,難得週五也開放至晚上10時的地方,有pop-up performance、特別展覽、餐飲,氣氛一流。

How do Londoners spend their Happy Friday? Let’s check out the V&A where you can enjoy pop-up performances, exhibitions, food & drinks in a lovely hub till 10 p.m.!

當時London Design Week的展覽。

On exhibition: London Design Week.

另外一個到V&A 的重點是認識時裝的發展史,此外V&A會定期展出不同主題的時裝,甚至於當今時裝大師合作,大家不妨來碰碰運氣你會遇見誰的作品。

You will be able to take a quick glace of the fashion history in the V&A.  There are different thematic fashion exhibitions here – and try your luck to see if you would be able to see the masterpiece of the world’s famous designers!

維多利亞時期的晚裝。

Evening gowns at Victorian period.

19世紀的女仕便服。

Ladies causal wear in the 19th century.

用餐區的佈置如高級餐廳,不過於這個環境吃快餐及share table,可同時與不同的人交流!

The dining area is like a high-end restaurant – where you can have your own food in a much affordable price while sharing the table with different people!

於V&A用餐區的另一角,也是share table。

You can also share your table with guests in another corner of V&A dining area.